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“Perhaps is it true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone there who can understand what we are saying, in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.

Without love, we lose the ability to possess a proper identity, within love, there is a constant confirmation of our selves. It is no wonder that the concept of a God who can see us  has been central to many religions: to be seen is to be assured that we exist, all the better if one is dealing with a God (or partner) who loves us. Surrounded by people who precisely do not remember who we are, people to whom we often relate our stories and yet who will repeatedly forget how many times we have been married, how many children we have, and whether our name is Brad or Bill, Catrina or Catherine (and we forget much the same about them), it it not comforting to be able to find refuge from dangers of invisibility in the arms of someone who has our identity firmly in mind?”

Alain de Botton, Essays in love


Written by sabina alexandra

November 26, 2009 at 12:34

Posted in Essays in love

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  1. Iubirea ca salvarea ce ne elibereaza din inexistenta…hmmm. Teza asta o formulam si eu prima data cand am fost indragostit in urma cu ceva ani, cand fata careia ii adresam aceasta idee imi raspundea ca cine poate fi multumit doar cu o persoana reconoscandu-i existenta? Si sincer avea dreptate. Poate ceeea ce este adevarat este faptul ca drumul cel mai rapid si simplu catre a fi observat este in bratele ‘iubitului/iubitei’…in schimb asta nu este cea mai durabila metoda, asa cum si autorul citat de tine mentiona in argumentarea sa nu stiu cate casnicii avute de noi la activ si pe care oamenii din jurul nostru le-ar uita cu usurinta. Revin la ideea initiala: oare sa ne multumim cu atat de putin? Ideea afirmata de autor e interesanta ca fapt divers si poate servi ca punct de plecare pentru o discutie, dar poate e putin cam niava.


    January 4, 2010 at 04:20

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